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  • Release Date: Oct 1, 2009
  • Publisher: Bethany House
  • Pages: 316

Things Worth Remembering Discussion Questions

1. Most of the time Kendy is good at “accepting things” she “cannot change.” Is there something difficult you’ve been able to accept or not accept? If so, what has been the result?

2. Psalm 37:1-11 provides an alternative to fretting. What has fretted you? Can you think of a time when you made the conscious decision to trust, delight in, and wait on God rather than to worry or fret about a problem?

3. What kind of influence did Margaret have on Kendy? How did she contribute to her life? Is there anyone for whom you have made such a contribution? Or has “God in his mercy” sent someone like Margaret to help you?

4. Kendy recalls the joy of being snowed in with her Mother. What is one of your most treasured childhood memories? Or what memory do you and your children share when you have family get-togethers.

5. “Out of all the misery, there is this one good thing: He (Luke) and Maisey have enjoyed each other so much” (177). Romans 8:28 says that “God works for the good of those who love   him, who have been called according to his purpose,” so even in bad situations, God can bring about good. Can you think of a time that has happened in your life?

6. Kendy wonders if the Holy Spirit was trying to intervene when Paula found Clay in Kendy’s classroom and asked Kendy to be careful (187). Can you think of a time you felt the Holy Spirit’s nudge, his intervening in your life in a big or small way? Did you yield to the Spirit and what was the outcome?

7. Are “secrets to invigorate our days” ever a good thing? Why or why not?

8. In the steps that led up to Kendy’s affair (what else should we call it?), when exactly should Kendy have done something differently? What should she have done?

9. Kendy says “I never gave a thought about what or who was ultimately and necessarily being neglected when my thoughts were consumed with Clay, never thought about what I was missing or would never retrieve because of the time I devoted to him” (199). What other things cause us to relinquish important moments with those we love?

10. Luke hated the movie Bridges of Madison County while Kendy thought it had “poignant moments.” Why do books and movies that venerate unfaithfulness entice some of us? Why might Luke have hated them even before he knew of Kendy’s involvement with Clay?

11. Marcus asks Maisey if Kendy was a good mother (213). Maisey says “yes, overall,” but she doesn’t want to prove her assertion. What proof is there that Kendy was, in fact, a good mother? What do you consider one of her most admirable qualities?

12. Kendy identifies with the Marquez phrase: “torments of memory.” Is there anything positive to be said about unhappy memories? Would it be good if a pill were available that could erase all bad memories like Kendy erases math problems from her white board? What helps when hurtful memories threaten today’s happiness?

13. Kendy wonders what kind of deficiency allowed her to be unfaithful to her husband (229). When one engages in any type of sin (greed or pride or slander, etc.), is there some kind of deficiency that makes one susceptible to it? If so, is understanding that deficiency in ourselves helpful? How?

14. Children of Dust was the working title for this novel. Why is that a logical choice? Why is Things Worth Remembering a better one?

15. Luke says everyone makes mistakes and that “life is good when we choose love and forgiveness.” Is loving and forgiving really a choice? How has life been “good” when you’ve made the choice to love and to forgive?

16. Is it feasible that Maisey kept what she saw in the kitchen to herself all these years? Why do you think she did? Do people really keep such secrets? Why?

17. Luke has his own regrets. What are they? Is there more than one way to be unfaithful to a spouse?

18. Kendy says only one who loves God deeply responds to sin the way David responds to his when he writes Psalms 6, 32, 38, and 51. What do you see in these psalms that would cause Kendy to draw this conclusion?

19. Since the relationship with Clay had ended, did Kendy need to tell Luke about it? What were the results? What might have been the results if she had kept it to herself?

20. Maisey recalls a time a girl at church had wronged her and the advice her mother gave her. Kendy gave Maisey at least three reasons she should forgive the girl (257). Do you agree with the three she mentioned? What other reasons are there for forgiving someone who has hurt us?

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